DO: befriend somebody older than you.
We look at people who are older than us. They seem so smart – so good at what they do. They have the world all figured out, and you think that you too should be on their level. As a younger sibling, I’ve gotten used to the idea there will always be somebody who has an advance on me in life, but I’ve also learned to not look at it as an intimidation. Look at it as your chance to learn.
Observe your superiors – your parent, older sibling, boss, older friend. Observe what they do, how they react, and how they think through situations. Talk to them about what’s going on in your life. Chances are that they’ve gone through something similar and can help give you a better outlook on the situation. I’ve talked through breakups, financial situations, friendships, and other life matters with my older friends, and each time I’ve found their perspective extremely helpful and eye opening.
I think that sometimes as human beings we live our lives with too much haste. We want to be knowledgeable and skilled beyond our years. We don’t consider that (usually) neither are the type of thing that one just happens upon. They both develop over time, and take effort and learning. Befriending somebody older than you is a good way to realize this truth. Take observatory lessons from a superior who already has the skills or knowledge you seek. Learn from them and take your time. You’ll be old and wise soon enough.
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