DO: verbalize it
I recently found myself in conversation, taking a stand for something that matters to me. I voiced how important it was for me that I say something. “I wouldn’t expect anything less,” said the other participant. And you know what? That’s something that I like about myself. When I think something, when I truly want something or feel a certain way – I don’t keep it a mystery, I say it.
So many of us walk through life with desires and opinions swirling around in our heads, but we’re too scared to ever say them out loud. We make ourselves into puzzles for others to figure out – holding in emotions and pent up resentments towards life and other people, wondering why we don’t get our way.
Well the truth is, sometimes you just have to verbalize it. When you say something out loud, it becomes known – people can’t always read your mind. Let the words float off your lips and take form in the universe as a concrete thought and idea that others are aware of. You have to build an outward identity through voiced opinions, and get what you want by asking for it. There may be that moment of extreme heart palpitations, sweaty palms, “oh no, you can’t say it,” but I can guarantee you that you’ll almost always feel better if you do. Even if that boy doesn’t want to make it official or your boss can’t give you that raise, you’ll know that you tried, and you might settle with understanding why you can’t have it. You can always rework your goals or how you’re going to get where you want to go, but you won’t know that you need to unless you have that conversation.
Either way, be a person with a point of view and passions. Let them be known. Verbalize them when it matters and get things off your chest.