Hi, I’m Shani. You might know me from such blogs as…this one! Today, I’m starting a new, recurring column on BLDG 25 called Love Letters, in which I will answer any and all questions readers have about dating. Note, this is not an advice column for those in relationships, but instead a discussion for those hoping to be in one. I’m talking to you, the girl in the trenches, dealing with all the niceties of dating in the texting/Facebooking/Instagramming labyrinth we live in.
You might be asking yourself, what does this girl know about dating? Well, plenty, for starters, but what I will tell you is this, I make you no promises or guarantees about what we’ll discuss here, except one: I date, too! I’m right there with you, living through all the experiences you’ve had, and been confused by. We’re in this together.
So, you have a question, you say? Be bold, friends, and email that question to firstname.lastname@example.org. Each week, I’ll answer at least one (if not more!) of your questions, and I welcome your feedback in our comments section.
Q: Is it ever okay to date someone at work?
A: The easy answer is no. The standard answer is no. It’s a risky business, no pun intended, to date a coworker. What if it doesn’t work out? What if it makes others at the office uncomfortable? Lots of ifs, right? If the ifs worry you more than your coworker attracts you, I say the safe bet is to avoid it. However, let’s remember that we’re all grown ups. We’re also grown ups in an age when it can be hard to meet someone you connect with. Sometimes that connection is going to occur at the office, it’s inevitable. Handling the situation with maturity, and keeping all in-office contact strictly professional are the best tools you’ve got for dating a coworker. If you both go into it knowing, and accepting the “ifs”, you can proceed, with caution.