It seems to me that Valentine’s Day is a holiday that’s either loved or despised by any given person. In my experience, many of those who are part of the latter group are there for the same reason: they’re not currently in a relationship. It’s not that they aren’t genuinely happy for those who get to spend the day with the love of their lives, it’s just that the day shines a brighter light on the fact that these people don’t have that special someone to enjoy this love-centered holiday with. Or any holiday. Or any day for that matter.
I happen to love Valentine’s Day, even though I’m not currently in a relationship. To tell you the truth, I’ve spent most of my Valentine’s Days as a single girl. It’s certainly a bittersweet day, but I’d rather focus on the sweet, and I hope that you would, too. We all love the idea of love, and it’s sometimes hard to be happy for two people who share something that we want nothing more than to experience for ourselves, but it’s all in how we look at it.
My younger sister has been with her boyfriend for almost 3 years. They’re one of the silliest, sweetest, cutest, happiest, most loving couples I know, and when I think about their relationship, I kind of want to cry. It’s not that I’m choked up over not being in a similar situation, it’s completely separate from that. I kind of want to cry because I just love the two of them so freaking much and I am so incredibly happy that they’ve found each other – especially so early in life. Being able to see the amount of love in that relationship alone makes Valentine’s Day a happy day for me. It also keeps alive my faith in love, and has me aspiring to grow up to be just like them.
Okay, so it’s Valentine’s Day and you’re happy for your loved ones and their relationships. But you’re still single. What are you supposed to do? Anything. Everything! Whatever you want!
I love the vibe that can be felt on Valentine’s Day. You can actually feel the specialness in the air throughout the day – so go with it. Give yourself the mission to make people happy that day, starting with yourself. It’s oftentimes the tiniest things that have the hugest impact. Start the day by making yourself a heart-shaped breakfast, and then put on a pretty little dress.
Go on a hunt for the prettiest flower you can find. Buy a whole bunch and give one to each of your single friends. If you have any left over, give them out to strangers! If a stranger handed me a flower on Valentine’s Day, it would bring the hugest smile to my face.
Make a list of things you love and carry it with you all day long. Writing these things down will put you in a loving mood, and carrying the list around will help keep you there all day!
When nighttime comes, keep the momentum going! Get together with all of your single friends and cook dinner together. While you eat, it would be fun to go around the table and have everyone name one way that one of their past relationships has helped shape them into the person they are today. After dinner, you could all go to a bar to hang out and enjoy a few drinks. Don’t go with the intention of meeting a potential mate – it’s not fair to put that pressure on yourself. Just go to hang out and be with your friends! But who knows, you may just meet the love of your life. :)
Last year I wanted to go out on Valentine’s night but didn’t have any single friends to meet up with, so I met up with a guy I’d been exchanging messages with on an online dating site! (Don’t worry, we hung out in a well-lit public place and I never told him my real name. Just kidding about that second part). I brought with me silly Valentine’s Day paraphernalia like temporary heart tattoos and little stamps shaped like conversation hearts. We didn’t end up happily ever after, but it was so much fun to make a new friend and act a little ridiculous, all in the name of Valentine’s Day.
So, if you find yourself hating on Valentine’s Day year after year, try to take a bit of a different approach this year. Don’t look at the day so seriously, and just have fun. Love is a beautiful thing, and by changing the way you look at it, you might find that it’s been waiting for you all along.