So, meeting people is one thing, but actually planning how you’re going to hang out is quite another. Like, what are you going to do together? The standard dinner-and-a-movie is really, really tired, this week’s questions address that issue.
Q: What is normal to do on a first date? Do you have to go to dinner or is it okay to meet for drinks?
A: First of all, there is no “normal” first date. Everyone should do what they are comfortable with. Personally, I think it has a lot to do with how you met. If you met online, I think it’s perfectly acceptible to meet for drinks the first time. If you met through friends, or have a firmer background on each other, dinner can be fun. The worst thing to do on a first date is go to the movies. You’re not talking to each other! Same issue with rock shows. You want to be able to talk and get to know the person.
Q: This new guy I’m dating always wants me to make the plans and decide what we’re doing. I would like him to plan one of our dates, but how do I get him to do that?
A: Easy: Ask! The next time you two decide to hang out, let him know you’d love for him to show you one of his favorite spots, or just blantanly let him know you’d like him to plan the next date. This isn’t asking a lot! If he’s unwilling do plan a date, he might not be willing to do much more, either, and you might need to call this off in favor of finding someone who is a little more involved.