As promised, I’m back for week two, answering some of the thoughtful questions I received from our readers. Read below for my thoughts, and if you have a question you’d like to ask, email me at email@example.com.
Q: Is it now standard for girls to ask guys on dates? Long story short I never ever get asked out on a date and I am not sure how to deal with this predicament.
A: Awesome question! I know a lot of girls struggle with “cultural norms” of waiting for guys to ask them on dates, rather than asking themselves. I think it’s lovely when a guy asks a girl on a date. It displays confidence, and an attraction for the girl. It feels fantastic! However, many of us know things don’t always work out that way. If you’re finding that you’re not dating as often as you’d like, take some action! Typically, striking up a conversation with a guy you’re interested in will give you clues as to whether or not he’s interested in you, too. If you’re feeling a good vibe between you and a guy, ask him if he’d like to get coffee or drinks with you. Displaying the confidence it takes to ask a guy out is incredibly attractive. I say go for it! As for date number two…it’s his turn.
Q: How do I let someone know I fancy them, without them thinking we are just being friendly? I’m a very friendly happy person with everyone around. However around the guy I like I tend to ignore him as I’m too shy to speak in front of him, we just exchange a lot of heated glances. The problem is he works at my Art University shop, so its very hard to make a start over the counter.
A: This answer is actually quite similar to the one above. It’s going to take some bravery on your part. But don’t worry! Bravery comes with the reward of displaying that attractive confidence we all try to exude. The next time you’re in the art store, introduce yourself. Let him know you’ve seen him around before, and you’d like to get a cup of coffee with him sometime soon. If it were me, I’d pass along my phone number and leave the ball in his court. You’ve summoned enough bravery already! Be prepared for two things: 1) He might not call, and 2) you’re going to have to see him at the art store after this. If you’re comfortable with both of those outcomes, go for it!