Long Hair Confessions

When you have a long hair routine but possibly doing it all wrong…

In 8th grade, I started growing out my hair. Before that was the shoulder-length mom cut that I would normally wear gelled back in a semi-low pony and, before that, the bob — with bangs. I’m not really sure which was worse…

Regardless, the decision to let my hair go was one of the best I ever made — it’s now one of my favorite features. It was around the same time I realized I liked going to the movies with boys more than playing capture the flag at the local rec center on Friday night. Since then, I’ve never had the desire to revisit a short ‘do, or anything else, for that matter. My mom always warned me that using dyes would ruin it so, except for scoring a few highlights on Valentine’s day (treat yourself), I’ve never altered my light brown locks. Going completely blonde has crossed my mind, multiple times, but actually going through with it is something to which I may never commit. Will it completely ruin my hair? No, probably not. My hair will still be attached to my head, but I think it’s the supposed maintenance that holds me back, which leads me to a confession…

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I used to wash my hair every single time I took a shower. Shampoo, and conditioner. Literally. Every. Single. Time. This routine sometimes took place twice, three times a day, depending on my shower schedule, for as long as I can remember…I thought this is how people washed their hair! It wasn’t until I became roommates with Brigette that I learned that was absolutely not the case. I still remember when she went no ‘poo and I thought it was the most wack thing I ever heard.

“Wait, so like, you don’t wash your hair…with anything?!”

After trying it myself, I now completely respect her routine, or lack of one. During my recent visit to Costa Rica, I decided to test the waters — how long I could go without washing my hair? It may have been a vagabond beach life that encouraged that decision, but I refrained from touching my hair that entire trip.

Result? I was into it.

So much so that I told myself that I’d keep up the “non-keep” once I got home. Unfortunately, Philly is not home to a convenient saltwater rinse (i.e., ocean), but I have tried to keep my shampoo and conditioner use to a minimum. Actually, conditioner no longer exists in my repertoire. Just shampoo, every two days or so.

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Sans conditioner seems to make my hair more wavy — there’s less substance weighing it down. And shampooing every few days allows my scalp’s natural oils to build up and keep my hair moisturized. I like this routine, but I’m not so sure it’s the best thing for my hair. Which leads me to my other confession — I never brush my hair.

Like, not ever. Only If I plan on straightening my hair. In which case I have to brush it while wet, immediately after a shower. Otherwise, a dry brush creates an awkward-looking, half-straight, half-poofy mane.


Above photo by Magdalena Kernan

Is brushing so little also bad for my hair?

If you have long hair, what is your routine? Do you wash regularly, or not at all? Are there any special products or treatments you swear by? I’d love to hear your answers in the comments below!

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Since I have long and curly hair, I need to wash them from time to time or else they lose their volume. But I don’t wash them every day, I rather wear them in a bun on bad hair days!

Lindsey P

Love !


I used to almost never brush my hair either (maybe once a week) but I would get the most gnarly tangles! Borderline dreadlocks. But I hate how poofy it gets too …
I’ve discovered that using a wide-toothed comb + a natural leave-in conditioner spray (I use one called ‘Love’ by Escents) it keeps my hair untangled but not poofy at all :) and the leave-in will keep my waves defined!

I have long curly hair, and one of the things I swear by is henna! Henna treatments on my hair make it exceptionally soft and shiny. Not to mention it gives my dark hair beautiful red highlights!

If you’re interested, here’s how I use henna on my hair:

I also never brush my hair. My mom would flip out if she heard me say it, but I have so much natural volume that brushing just makes it a huge, frizzy mess. I’ll use a wide tooth comb if I have to put my hair in a bun for ballet, but other than that, I’ve stopped messing with it. I have to be doing something right though – people at work have commented on how much nicer my hair looks! Cue the looks of horror when I say I stopped brushing, but hey, it works. In regards to washing,… Read more »


What if you hardcore sweat everyday?! When I get home from the gym my hair is still soaked from my gym session, so I shower and wash my hair with both shampoo and conditioner every day. Good idea or bad idea?


hi!!! I used to have wicked long, THICK hair that I would wash daily. A couple months ago I chopped all my locks off to have a fresh look–took away all the emotional burdens and constraints that come with long hair. Recently I have grown a liking to conditioning my hair then using shampoo–it moisturizes the locks then cleanses it with shampoo. I would recommend that. Brushing hair isn’t necessarily bad so long as you stimulate the hair follicles. I don’t brush my hair every day either, even though its short now, but I do enjoy being able to run… Read more »


I have a weird relationship with my hair. I let it grow grow grow and after that I cut it short (not short short, but shoulder-level).

I tend to cure it quite a lot because it breaks and I hate it, but maybe you´re right: not touching it is the best option!



Wow it’s so nice to hear that other ladies don’t brush their hair! I only brush it when I straighten it as well. But I have gotten A LOT of hell my whole life for “looking like I rolled out of bed” “omg brush your hair” but I can tell my hair doesn’t take brushing very well unless I use a lot of leave in conditioner. My hair is thin and breaks and is weak. I don’t use much product (light hairspray and leave in conditioner on just the ends every single day) but I only wash it 2 times… Read more »

I like to shampoo my hair once a week and instead of conditioner I use Organic Coconut oil every once a week. I try not to use too much because it is very oily.

Once a week, usually the evening before I plan on washing it, I put coconut oil in the ends of my hair before going to bed -wearing it in a bread to keep it from making everything too disgusting. I wash it with organic shampoo & use conditioner for dry hair on the ends only. I totally get where you’re coming from with the brushing! I have found that it helps a lot to brush it in the evening before I go to bed! That way at least the worst tangles are taken out once a day, but by the… Read more »

coconut oil!!! :)

I have had long locks my whole life and have tried everything in the book to take care of it. My routine now, that I love, is washing once or twice a week with nourishing shampoo – but very little. I load up on conditioner though, for my ends. A brush never touches my hair except for the 30 seconds before I shower. Hair breaks when it is wet, so getting the tangles out pre-shower is ideal. I rub argan oil on my ends as it dries and I’m set for a good 2-3 days with soft natural waves!

I have long, wavy hair & also struggle with brushing it every day! AND I also go to the gym daily… What I’ve started doing is wash every other day and on the off days will actually put baking soda and massage it into my scalp (with dry or post-workout hair)… The baking soda is an awesome natural dry shampoo (If you have dark hair you’ll need to add arrowroot powder though so it doesn’t give any white tint).
On the days I shampoo I’ll comb my hair and put it into braids so that no wavy texture is lost.


I’ve been growing out my hair for almost 5 years and my hair is down to my lower back. I workout almost every day in a gym with no air conditioning in FL, so I get pretty sweaty. I’ll rinse my hair in the shower almost every day, but I skip the shampoo and only use conditioner. I’m paranoid about dry and split ends so I always condition plus Biosilk after my shower. I only shampoo my hair about once a week or when it starts feeling really oily. I don’t brush my hair unless I’m putting in a braided… Read more »

I love having long hair and I have just come to the point where I’m able to call it that (it’s about to the bottom of my rib cage). The only thing is my hair is fine and straight so I can go two-three days without washing, but when I do I have to use conditioner twice in the shower because my hair gets insanely tangly. And once i get out(I let it dry a little) and then its takes me around half and hour to comb out the majority of tangles with a wide tooth comb and leave in… Read more »

Kristy Dee

I have pretty long hair too, but since it is this long it falls quite flat and straight. I tend to wash every 4-5 days now but used tot do it three times a week. I get a very oily scalp resulting in greasy hair after day 2-3. I use dry shampoo to keep it a little less greasy. Also I find that because it is longer it annoys me a lot and gets in the way when I work. So I put it in a bun or ponytail a lot. I don’t really like that look on me but… Read more »


Wow, I can’t imagine rinsing without washing, you guys. My hair is like a sponge, so it takes hours to dry. If I get it wet, there needs to be a reason. Once for a performance, I put it in a bun wet on Friday afternoon, redid the bun for the Saturday shows, and still had wet hair for the Sunday matinee. It was awful. (This is also why I won’t get dreadlocks. I’m afraid they would grow a lot of mildew.) Anyway, I shampoo the roots and condition the ends about once a week. I brush it every day… Read more »


I’ve had locs (dread locs) for thirteen years (fourteen next month) and as a result my hair is fairly long. It reaches my lower back. My washing routine is monthly and I both wash and condition. I will admit that I desire a change and will cut my hair soon. In the mean time I’ve enjoyed the freedom having long hair has provided me. The maintenance has been minimal, however, others assume this means “no maintenance.” This is not the case. If you have long hair ENJOY THE JOURNEY!

Megan B

I have long thick hair and I wash it when it feels dirty…about every 3 to 5 days depending on what I did through out that time. I only brush my hair right before I step into the shower to wash it. If I brush it any more than that it turns into a bushy mess. The rest of the time I finger comb it. I get some gnarly knots in the back, but I find that it’s easier to manage the knots with your fingers rather than a comb or brush. If it starts to feel greasy and i’m… Read more »

Your hair is super dreamy. I have long hair (Down to the lower middle of my back) and I feel like I am always struggling to figure out how to take care of it! I’ve never tried the no-poo routine but I am very tempted. My hair looks very thick and like there’s a lot of it, but when I put it up in a bun, the bun is so TEENY! I do have layers but I don’t think just having layers would do that.. if anyone has any suggestions I’d love some!


I never brush my hair either! I’m 5’9 and my hair is a little bit past my hips and I rarely brush it–I think it prevents breakage; I wash my hair once a day for the most part and that works pretty well for me, but I think everyone’s hair is different. I just recently dyed the ends of my hair a lavender color without bleaching it first, and I really like it because it’s not super noticeable and won’t damage my hair, but I love how it looks when it catches the light. If you want to dye your… Read more »

Emily Rose

My hair is down to my hips and for the last 5 years I’ve gradually slowed down my wash schedule. I use to wash it once every 3 or 4 days, then I moved to a week, then 2 weeks, now I wash my hair about every 18-20 days, and although I shower a few times a week, I don’t even get my hair wet. I know it may sound crazy that I wash my hair maybe once a month, but because I’ve gradually decreased my hair hardly ever looks greasy. When I tell woman my wash schedule they honestly… Read more »


I have thin long wavy hair and I wash it every 3-4 days but by the end it gets greasy and I have to braid it or wear it up. I think it’s because I just switched to deva curl no poo. I want ready to go to acv and baking soda so I did this instead and I love it. it’s specifically made for wavy and curly hair. I have to brush my hair before each wash or it dreads really bad.