When you catch yourself in this special place, full of confusion, self-doubt and anxiety, this is where the real strength comes in…
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What scares you? Is it going away to college, and leaving your family and friends behind? Is it taking that job offer across the country, plunging yourself into a new city, all alone? Maybe it’s something as simple as talking in front of a group of people. For me, it used to be all of the above, and more. I feared the unknown, I was scared to approach strangers, and moving away from where I felt most comfortable was a daunting thought.
But I can remember the exact moment when I decided to make a switch in my life. A switch from comfort and safety, to uncertainty and thrill. I progressively realized that I was the only variable standing in the way of my personal growth. As much as family and friends can support you along the way, there is nothing more invigorating than pushing yourself past your perceived boundaries. That newfound sense of pride when you look back at the strength it took to get there will ignite the inner confidence that lies in your fire.
However, we don’t always achieve the results we are looking for. With each victory, you feel energized, but with each setback, discouragement may set in. When you catch yourself in this special place, full of confusion, self-doubt and anxiety, this is where the real strength comes in. Are you going to stand back, or stand up? How can you take feelings of exhaustion and discomfort, and transform them into energy that will propel you forward? It’s simpler than you’d think, yet one of the most difficult practices to wrap your head around.
“So in order to have something to think about, there are times you simply must stop thinking. Well, how do you do that? The first rule is: Don’t try to! Because if you do you will be like someone trying to make rough waters smooth with a flat iron, and all that will do is stir it up. So in the same way as a muddy turbulent pool quiets itself when left alone, you have to know how to leave your mind alone, it will quiet itself.” — Alan Watts
When you tune your vibrations to this level of serenity, a clear decision will present itself, with the gentle push needed to overcome your next obstacle. After all, fear is only an illusion that our minds create. Once we recognize that, we can start to slow down our thoughts, quiet the frightful chatter and reach mental clarity.